Breaking up is hard; as much for the one person as it is for the other. A break-up can happen when we least expect it. We’ll carry memories of it long into the future. Remaining level-headed and making the most of the various tools and resources available to us will help us throughout the healing process. Here are a few of my tips for surviving a breakup. Because I understand how hard it can be to heal and move forward.

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  • Do some brainstorming

Yes, I know it’s hard, but it’s important to be realistic and take some time to reflect. Think about what you gained from your relationship and what you really want in life. I recommend making a list of the qualities you look for in another person or the values you want to carry into future relationships. It’s important to know these things. It’s also important to know why your relationship did not work out and what behavioural changes both you and your partner would have had to make.

  • Allow yourself to cry

Yes, crying does help. Take whatever time you need to cry because your body needs to release the pain and grief you are experiencing. You’re allowed to eat Nutella straight from the jar while watching Chuck Bass and Blair on Gossip Girl. However, just to be clear, you can’t do it forever or you’ll get caught in a vicious cycle… so a deadline, a date upon which you’ll go back to the reality of everyday life.

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  • Break away from your old routine

Obviously, you’ll never move on if you stay stuck in the routine you established when you were a couple. You need to break away from that routine for the sake of your own mental health. Make changes to your daily habits, eat at a different restaurant, sleep on the other side of the bed (if need be). The important thing is to move forward and think about something other than your breakup.

  • Surround yourself with the right people

It’s always important to surround yourself with the right people, especially when your morale is low and your heart is aching. Get out and spend some time with friends. Give them a call and let them know how you’re doing or when you need some emotional support. Needing someone and/or reaching out for help does not mean you’re weak. On the contrary, you are acknowledging your needs and you’ve got the courage it takes to pick up the phone and ask for help.

  • Focus on the positive and the future

Once you’ve done all of the above, it’s time to turn your attention to the future. You need to determine what you’re worth. Put your best foot forward. Get out with friends. Adopt a positive attitude, nurture positive thoughts, and put out positive vibes. All  of this is essential to your well being after a breakup.

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In closing, I truly hope that I’ve been of some help, if you needed it. Although cliché, it’s nonetheless true, there’s always sunshine after the rain. So don’t give up!

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